Feeling psychologically intimidated? 
What’s the way out?

I read an article, and I like the approach and the writer’s vulnerability because I think we tend to shy away from these things.

Some time ago, I remembered assessing myself, and I came face to face with a side of me I didn’t know existed or somehow ignored.

I remember how scrutinizing I was. I wanted to deal with that aspect and wasn’t pleased that I had to admit I had a flaw and one that had a thing to do with jealousy.

Birthdays and year-end avail us with the opportunity to reflect on our year, and more than ever before, I was happier last year-end, and this was because, as opposed to previous years, I was grateful.

Why were the other years different? I wasn’t grateful because I looked more at other people than myself. If I did, I’d realize that there are many things to be grateful for.

No matter how much we achieve, we’ll be dissatisfied if we refuse to be intentionally grateful. It would just always feel that other people are happier and have it together more than we do, and the truth is, it’s okay to have people that are better than we are; it’s okay for other people to be happier because really, especially if they have put in the work. The world doesn’t revolve around us.

I wrote these exact words in my journal: “Trying to console myself with the thoughts that it will get better – of course it would, but what is my definition of better? Is it better that would no longer seem like it when I see someone else’s better better?

I was the problem and realized that if I didn’t tackle the problem, no matter what I got, I would never be contented. So, I had to work on me.

I needed to be contented.

Yes, the grass is greener on the other side, other people are happier and have more, and that’s very okay.

What is not okay is me consoling myself with the fact that they don’t have it all together. But that’s how a witch would think, and I am not one. I am a child of God.

I was the happiest I had ever been on my birthday. I also started the year on the best foot.

What changed?

1. I accepted that the world didn’t revolve around me, which was okay.

2. I realized that I needed to work on my self esteem

3. I was grateful for the things and people in my life. Which is helping me do better in this new year.

4. I genuinely prayed for those people who had their life together.

In this year, I have gotten clarity like never before. God has really worked on me and i’m thankful.

Like I read somewhere, “you don’t need to be happy to be grateful but when you’re grateful, you’ll be happy.

Honestly, it’s very true because when we become grateful, our minds open up to more reasons to be which we might have forgotten and when you think, you’ll realize things aren’t as bad.

It’ll also clear your eye, and you’ll see road well.

If I have any right to coin a phrase after this article, it’ll be, “the best way to deal with low self esteem is by being grateful”.